Typically, early attachment styles as a child "transfers" to adulthood. Looking back at my childhood I had distress upon separation with my parents and viewed the world as a safe place to be. One can conclude that I had a secure attachment style when I was young. Based on class lectures of childhood and adult attachment styles, one can then conclude that my adult attachment style would also be secure. This is not the case for me though.

I started off as a shy girl, not really knowing anything about love. I wanted intimacy but was also self-conscious about it being it was something I never experienced before. Because of this desire to feel intimate but also afraid, one could say that I had a level of fearful avoidant. Another characteristic that I possessed of having an attachment style of fearful avoidant was never sharing my true feelings. I used to brush it off my shoulder because I was afraid of starting a fight. Now-a-days though, I let my boyfriend know when he did something wrong or something that bothered me. If it's something small though like me being disappointed that he won't fetch me a glass of water, I tend to just let it go. I find it pointless to argue at something so ridiculous because the next day, that glass of water doesn't bother me anymore.

However, now I would describe my adult attachment style as secure as opposed to fearful avoidant. I find it easy to show when I'm stressed or to tell him how much I deeply love him. While I love spending time with him, I'm not afraid to just chill by myself while he does his own thing. I'm confident in myself, and also have a positive view of others. It has not always been this way though.

I guess the point I am trying to make is I can see where childhood attachment styles are related to adult attachment styles. Though, I will argue that as you progress through a relationship, your attachment style changes, merely because you grow more comfortable.