In class, we discussed the types of dances: Pursuer/distancer, underfunctioner/overfunctioner, and submissive/dominate.  The pursuer/distancer is when a couple is experiencing different desires of a relationship. One wants to open up, while the other wants to have some time backing away from the relationship. The second dance is the underfunctioner/overfunctioner. This dance occurs when the couple has a misbalance of responsibility; one person does...

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In class, we discussed a study that examined a study of men and women in college. The study examined how many college students said yes to “would you go out with me tonight”, “w you come over to my apartment tonight”, and “would you go to bed with me tonight”. As expected, very little to none women said yes to the second and...

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In class, we discussed the four horsemen: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. Criticism is basically when someone attacks the other person. In other words, it is giving an insult. Defensiveness is when one person makes excuses for his/her actions. Contempt is kind of like attacking the other person but in more of harsh tone. Some actions that are classified as contempt are sarcasm...

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In class we discussed the difference between perpetual problems and solvable problems. Perpetual problems usually are resulted from how a person was raised or their way of thinking. They normally stem from a problem that has a deeper root. Solvable problems on the other hand are more of a situational problem. These are problems where a solution is achievable to fix this problem....

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